I don't mean never tell your kids, "no". I mean don't avoid it. It's like the parent who told me about a time her son asked if he could have a sleepover that weekend. She hesitated. It had been a long week, the calendar was full, and she already knew the answer was no. But instead of saying it, she said what many of us say: “We’ll see.” Over the next few days, he kept bringing it up. “Did you think about it?” “Can I invite him?” “Have you decided yet?” Each time, she gave...

Parents ask me this a lot. They describe the behavior:                                                                                                        🤯lying                                                                                                                                        🤯refusal                                                                                                                                     🤯defiance                          ...

Business teams don’t run smoothly because everyone is trying harder .They run smoothly because there are policies, procedures, and routines  in place. Imagine a company where: Employees have to be reminded to log into their email every morning Meetings start only after someone tracks people down No one knows the steps for submitting an expense report It’s a systems problem . Yet at home, we parents often operate without systems while managing more emotional intensity, unpredictability, and...